Temporary clutter. That, to me, is a very soothing phrase from Marie Kondo’s book The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up. Temporary clutter is just that, clutter that is temporary. Because life is not perfect and sometimes at least I don’t have the time or the energy to put everything away straight away and after this weekend dishes were piling up and things seemed to be everywhere. But since everything has it’s place it’s not too difficult to put things back where they belong, and the clutter is, once again, no more.
One of the major reasons why I want to live a simpler life is to reduce stress. I do not handle stress well. Quite the opposite. And the past few weeks has been horrible.
Not that anything particularily stresfull has happened or that I have had a lot on my plate but anything and everything can set me off and I get anxiety, my heart races, I get very very sad and cry for no real reason. I is awful .
So maybe if I write about it and the things that ‘trigger’ me it can help me to figure out how to handle it better. Cause I’m tired to be ruled by my stress.
A couple of nights ago me and my husband watched the new X-Men movie. I love the other X-Men movies and have watched most of them multiple times but ever since I saw the trailer for the new one (Apocalypse) I knew that I wouldn’t want to watch it. There would be too many things that would bother me about it. But still, when time came, we decided to watch it anyway because we really like the others. A few hours later the movie ended and it was way past my normal bed time (my kid wakes up quite early so I try to get to sleep early) I tried to see the positive sides of the movie but in the morning when I woke up at 5 am I was mostly annoyed for having wasted my time with a movie I knew wouldn’t give me anything or contribute to my life or mood.
And so I decided to be more concious of what watch or do or eat or read. Be more concious of what I consume and ask myself if it gives me anything and contributes to my life.
For example, last night we watched The Last Samurai and the entire movie I could think about the simplicity in the Japanese decor, about the samurai mindset and the story. I walked away strengthened by it instead of annoyed, which is the way it should be.
It can be realitvely easy to choose more carefully what movies to watch, but, for me at least, it is much more difficult to be more concious of what I’m eating and why I’m eating it. It’s so easy to snack between meals and when eating those meals not really be thinking of what I’m eating and enjoy it.
Same with checking social media. I try to check Instagram and Facebook and YouTube and Snapchat less and less. Instead of mindlessly checking them 10 times a day I want to check them mindfully maybe 1 time a day (and Facebook maybe not at all, except messages).
However, everything is a process and I can’t change everything at once, but from now on I will try to always think ”Does it contribute?”
Sometimes I get overwhelmed by everything and nothing, or too caught up in something, and then I like to try to take a step back and think about what truly matters.
What is most important to me?
What are my priorities?